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  1. We did a similar thing with our son, saving up for Thomas the Tank Engine toys. As he earned a dollar, we put it in a clear jar so he could see it filling up! (We still have those toys, prized possession, you know. 😀
    When the kids were about 5th-6th grade, they started a recycling business for our neighborhood, where they collected recyclables and took them to the precinct barn. Excellent lessons learned about customer service, sticking with it,and the value of work = money.
    I also think our own behavior with money probably influenced them a great deal, as well as the fact that they took the Dave Ramsey FPU course as teenagers.

  2. When our kids were pre-teen, they did not get an allowance because I simply did not have it to give. I was a single parent for nearly seven years, and every penny was needed to live. They fussed about not getting the allowance, but I quickly reminded them that they were part of the family, and as a family member we all worked together. They were responsible for keeping their rooms clean, emptying trash, feeding the dog, etc. By the time they were 10 and 12 they also were doing their own laundry because for some strange reason they felt that I should ‘hunt’ for dirty clothes and fussed because such n such was not clean. Solution: teach them to take care of it themselves. When they were in middle school, they received $20 a week, which they had to budget for school lunches and any other activity they participated in. They even used that money for the $1 or $2 that was needed for a youth activity. We always paid for church camp. They both had part time jobs when they turned 16 because we told them that part of the responsibility of having a driver’s license was to be able to put gas in the tank, pay for insurance and maint. on the car. We provided the vehicle (an older model), but they were responsible for it after that. There were times when we helped with gas or insurance, and even paid for most of the repairs, but they learned to budget their money because we did not have extra to give.
    Because they were not handed everything, and had to work for their money, as young adults, they have an incredible sense of responsibility with their money (both are debt free) and they have an amazing work ethics.
    You are doing an amazing job with your girls, and I love reading your blogs. Thank you for living Christ.

    • Thanks for the great thoughts and for sharing your experiences Mary! I really enjoy reading about how other people did it, especially when their kids are grown and I can see how it all worked out 😉

  3. Jon, I love your blog! Just a note regarding kids and finances…It’s always a balancing act in knowing how far to go in providing things for your kids versus what they’re expected to provide for themselves. May I offer this one thing: When each of our 3 kids got to be driving age, we opted to pay half of their drivers education (Sears driving school). I knew I’d be too impatient to do the state parent-taught thing; and maintaining a good parent-child relationship was worth more than the cost of driving school. Sometimes you have to pick your battles, and this seemed an easy choice.

    • Thanks Doug! You’re absolutely right about picking your battles. I’ve seen it with the teens I work with and I see it with my own little girls. Definitely some great advice!